Being Acknowledged

Being Acknowledged

Don't Ignore Us - What the 2016 Election Taught Us

by Pauline Sandell

I’ve been meditating on my strong emotional reactions to the election, escalating those reactions by looking at some of the “stuff” on Facebook before I got a grip on myself to stop feeding those reactions and engage my capacity to look at a bigger picture (which I can do really well when I chose). I just want to share them with you all.

Those who came out to vote for Trump have been heard (or “seen”). There is clearly a huge number of Americans who feel their need for attention has not been met and the only person on a public platform who has given them even a glimpse of a possibility that they might be even acknowledged – seems to be Donald Trump. Whether he can deliver or not – they are willing to take a risk because he acknowledged their need.

I understand how it feels to not to be seen, heard or acknowledged repeatedly and consistently. It sucks!

This is not a comment or opinion about the politics (as a Brit , tho I live in the US, I cannot vote here yet). This is an observation about being human and the human condition – the need to feel like we matter, that we count is primal. To feel ignored, talked at, exploited at best – manipulated and powerless – at worst – I think, forces one to do whatever it takes to be “seen” and “heard”.

Whatever my own beliefs and views – all I can say is I understand (and worked with populations) who know first-hand how it feels to not to be seen, heard or acknowledged repeatedly and consistently. It sucks!

What this election and the Brexit phenomenon may be reflecting is that huge numbers of the population showed up to say “I want to be counted – literally (I want to be seen and heard).

We have a system called democracy that allows that. Some other parts of the world don’t. Does the system always work the way we think it should? Hell no! But it mostly serves us (or we make do) – but then comfort encouraged benign “righteousness” may lead to the belief that the system is working for everyone. Clearly, from this election, it seems the system is not!

The fact that we have a system (however imperfect) that gives people who may feel they have no voice the option to be heard, in my view is still pretty progressive. I can certainly celebrate and feel good about that!

Pauline Sandell

Pauline Sandell

Personal Coach and Writer

As long as you’re here you might as well learn something new

As long as you’re here you might as well learn something new

Throughout my life, I’ve been continually challenged in trying to reconcile my early visions and dreams to the reality of being a woman, daughter, mother, wife, and entrepreneur. At every turn, high or low, I realized that my knowledge and understanding of the past was not going to be sufficient in carrying me through to what lay ahead. “I needed to learn something new.

Learning something new can be disruptive.

As we get older, having to learn something new feels like we are abandoning the past and all that we are accustomed to. We get cranky, as our mothers would say.   

However every time I travel, to a new country or even someplace I’ve been to many times before it is in the back of my mind that I am going to learn something new and that it will surprise me. Being open to learning something new opens up a door of possibilities that did not exist just moments before.   

Learning is necessary and it does not need to be difficult. Here are three keys.

  1. Determine the gap you’re looking to fill. What is it that you want or need to learn and why. Be specific about both the learning and the and the results you are looking for.
  2. Interactive learning is how we learn best.
  3. Work with a coach.

If you are going to tell a story, make it a good one.

If you are going to tell a story, make it a good one.

If you are going to tell a story, make it a good one.

Things happen to you, and that’s a fact…What you say about the facts is up to you. Try this: Pick something that you consider a major event in your life that has an emotion attached to it. Tell a story about that major event in the third person. Then, tell a version of the same events as a whining person. Then, with you as the hero of the story. Notice anything different? Did the emotion change?

How we talk about the events to others and for sure to ourselves, is telling the story. You can be the hero, the victim…or it can be your Hallmark Channel moment. It’s up to you. And your emotions follow depending on how you speak about it.

Story and fairy tales

Let’s hear it for the girls

Let’s hear it for the girls

Let’s hear it for the girls
Susan G. Finley

These are some of the women, known as “Human Computers” who were greatly responsible for getting the United States into space.

 What could have been said 

“That’s one small step for men and women, one giant leap for humankind.”

 

Susan Finley NASA, JPL-Caltech, Engineer

I’ve  just recently learned about the women techies who made it possible for our getting to and from the Moon, yeah!

And if you are first learning about these incredible women, like I am, then we better do something about getting the word out.We need to make an effort to show that our girls, our women, our wives and our daughters are used to doing more than what has been expected of them. The problem is that so little is expected of them! When a Girl gets something right she is considered an anomaly.

Girls in the spotlight

When she gets something wrong, meaning that it’s not working yet, they sometimes get the feedback “we gave you a chance AND?” Similarly to the focus on Marissa Mayer not being able to turn Yahoo around as if boys would have done a better job? By my count Yahoo CEO’s it’s 5 boys vs. 2 girls which suggest that the problem is not gender.

We like to give significance to being the 1st, which has often meant that others have never been acknowledged, invited in or accepted in. 

Over the next twelve months, If you’ve got a story about a woman who has not gotten the recognition she should have, be it a public person or someone who you know personally and think she deserves the spotlight I would love to publish that story here and have it be a part of our countdown to our 10th Positively Powerful Woman Awards event June 10th 2017.

Please email me using the contact form below.

 

3 + 3 =

Learning how to find your way

Learning how to find your way

Learning how to find your way

lao tzu a path to leaning

Lao-Tzu

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”

So many ways to learn, how many to unlearn?

As adults we have our “to do” lists, the speeches we attend, the audio recordings, workbooks and other sources from the last, the latest and greatest seminar we went to. All because we have an insatiable desire to learn. Maybe it’s because of some problem we want to solve or some business strategy we want to learn….whatever, we are a walking talking commitment to ‘learning’.

However what we don’t realize is that it is the unlearning that most interferes with what we do to learn. Unlearn why we procrastinate, why we let those notebooks gather dust after the first rush “to do” wears off. Or we get scared. What gets int the way of our being courageous to do something about the stuff we called “learned”.

What do you need to unlearn? This is where the human connection can kick in; that he or she that gets you over some hump and into action. Rewiring the brain to unlearn is faster with a caring two-some.

“What does it take to go where you’ve never been?”

I read this in a brochure of one of my international clients. Got someplace, a goal, vision, a health issue you’ve never been or had before? Think about the impossible way you most want to be or goal you want to reach… then put it in the abstract. Distance yourself from it. Meaning, imagine it as a wilderness you’ve never been in before. Could be a new country you got a training assignment to work in…whatever. To go to that imaginary place, what would you do? Find a map? Use your GPS or Google Map to check it out? Get a guide? Google the weather, temperature and start packing accordingly? For sure, you’d let yourself get excited about the trip. Then if it was important enough to you, your life and/or your sense of adventure, you would GO!

Learning how to achieve the impossible

It’s no different with the journey to your ”impossible dream”. Get a guide…a coach someone who’s been there and done that. You wouldn’t want a guide who is as new as you to the wilderness, would you? Do you homework, don’t go in blind. Think, does he or she have the credentials for your particular journey. And for sure – get excited! Remember, what’s new territory you is the journey you choose and could be the journey of your lifetime, your next adventure. Too many times we don’t act with urgency to what our intuition tells us. Trust and step out.

Susan Casper shocked to receive Positively Powerful Woman Award.

Susan Casper shocked to receive Positively Powerful Woman Award.

The excitement started building for the guests of the 9th Annual Positively Powerful Woman Awards with the Gala reception’s live music, periscope, video interviews, photos at the Step & Repeat, wine and horderves as they met old friends and made new ones. Then the doors opened to the main room, and you could hear the audible  “oohs and ahhs” as they entered into one of the most beautiful settings Halle Heart Children’s Museums has ever had.

Susan Casper, the emcee for the gala, took the mic and was as she always is — professional, entertaining and engaging in moving the Awards Ceremonies along from beginning to program conclusion…or so she thought…if her script was to be believed. This was not to be the case for one of the hardest working media professionals that command the stage. Instead, she was to have her own unexpected and shining moment. The second script, the one she was never to see was written by Joel Martin, Founder, and went like this…

“Our First Lady Michelle Obama said, ‘We learned about honesty and integrity – that the truth matters… that you don’t take shortcuts or play by your own set of rules… and success doePositively Powerful Woman's Awards eventsn’t count unless you earn it fair and square.’ Those words are very true for our final Positively Powerful Woman Award 2016 Honoree. She is a community leader, the ultimate professional in all that she says or does, a wife, mother, and friend to many. She plays by the tough rules of media and is simply put one of the hardest working women in broadcast… (Pause)… Ladies and  gentlemen, please join me in acknowledging the 2016 Positively Powerful Woman MEDIA LEADERSHIP Award Recipient, Susan Casper.” 

Positively Powerful

To say that Susan was surprised would be an understatement. The guests were overjoyed to see this woman who has always had “control of the room” being honored for her good works. And so…Media Leader Susan Casper became the fifth Positively Powerful Woman honoree of 2016. Known for using her incredible talents and time to make a difference through the media, she has a passion for helping others. When she is not hosting, you will find her supporting the community as a motivational speaker, volunteer, and advocate for women and girls. She joined ABC15 News in 2008 as an anchor and reporter before moving to Sonoran Living, the longest running television lifestyle show in Phoenix.

Positively Powerful Woman's Awards eventThis proud military brat enjoyed spending much of her childhood growing up at Spangdahlem Air Force Base in Germany where her creative imagination began to flourish.  After reporting and producing a video for her elementary school at Eglin, Susan knew that this was the career for her. In time she was to become the first African-American woman to anchor a primetime newscast in Tampa, Florida. Included among her many honors, is the UWF’s first ever Society of Professional Journalism national award, a William Randolph Hearst award, and numerous regional and state journalism titles. From sports to weather, Susan has a more than 20-year broadcast news career.

With a few tears and the applause and accolades from the audience, Susan Casper joined the other 2016 Positively Powerful recipients,  From left to right in the photo above are the 2016 Positively Powerful Woman Award honorees Tyler Butler, GoDaddy Director of Corporate Social Responsibility, Technology Leadership; Charlene Tarver, Esq., The Tarver Law Group, PLLC, Inaugural Human Rights Leadership; Dr. Joel P. Martin, President Triad West Inc. and Founder of the Awards Program; Susan Casper, Host ABC15, Sonoran Living and Awards Mistress of Ceremonies, Media Leadership; Anna Maria Maldonado, Director of Sales & Marketing, Care1st Health Plan-AZ, Health Advocacy Leadership; and Carrie S. Young, SRP Senior Director, Corporate Operations Services, The Global Leadership Award.

Born from a passion for honoring exemplary culturally diverse women who are the very best in their fields, the Positively Powerful Awards are held every year to celebrate women leaders from the greater Phoenix, AZ region and beyond. The mission of the Awards program is to celebrate the accomplishments of women in ways that empower all people to live their dreams. The spirit and criteria of selection is in keeping with these words “On Giving” from The Prophet written by Kahlil Gibran (Knopf, 1923).

Through the hands of such as these God speaks, and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the earth. It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding; And to the open-handed the search for one who shall receive is joy greater than giving.

 

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