Relationships that are Win Win

Sep 16, 2014 | Coaches Corner, Diversity & Inclusion, relationships

We are quickly losing touch with how to create and build relationships. We begin to lose this ability to relate early on in our childhood when we are taught that everything is a competition and for us to lose, means we will suffer a fate similar to that of the fictional characters in the Hunger Games. Winner takes all.

Competition is a good thing and It is not the only thing.

Take a look around and notice how much of your day is consumed by “not losing”. Having to win being the only acceptable result, results in a lot of losing. If we look at every relationship we have as a competitive one we miss the chance to learn something new from someone that is very different than ourselves.

The world is a very different place than just 25 years ago and we are coming into contact or relationships with people all around the world made possible because of an abundance of new communication technology. We are quickly understanding that there is plenty of room for everyone to grow and do well.

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Here are 3 conversations that will build non-competitive relationships.

1. Listen and respect others’ points of view. Aggressively arguing has become entertainment which may be fine for TV but arguing is exhausting and exacerbates personal relationships.
2.  Work together to find a solution to any problem that everyone will find comfort with. Compromise is not a dirty word. Imagine that the situation is not “either-or” but “both-and”.
3. Acknowledge and support individual accomplishments. Respecting that those you have the closest relationship to have their own personal existence and goals and they should be applauded for their accomplishments.